Acceptance and Mindfulness

Near the end of its life, a bromeliad plant may produce an inflorescence or flower, so beautiful, you can't believe the plant is actually dying......

 

In times of challenges like this, preaching others to stay strong is an oxymoron! How can one stay and pretend to be strong when there is no other choice? If you are good at faking, you can stay or pretend to be strong. However, if u cannot live up to people's expectations, then break down as you like it, but don't forget to bounce back!

Unfortunately, breaking down too often due to sadness will not help much in coping with the diagnosis and treatment. Feeling miserable and depressed will not only affect your emotional and physical health, it will make your loved one's life miserable! Do you want your husband, your boyfriend, your kids, your mum, dad and siblings feel miserable for you? Nope, that will be the last thing we want to do. Having a loved one diagnosed with a terminal disease is already hard to bear, what more having to live with them, and hearing their cries, sobs of despair and tantrums! So, give them a break. We need their support, thus, we need to make sure they are in both emotionally and physically fit condition!

The first step towards recovery is to have acceptance, accept the present condition, accept that you can do something about it and you can take appropriate actions, accept that you have tried your best, accept that our loved ones do not have to suffer like we do! 

In my opinion, when there is acceptance, one tend to remain calm, composed and realistic. Sadness can be balanced up by not thinking too much (of the future) but by being mindful and living each day as it comes. Stop and smell the roses, feel the rough stones beneath your feet, feel the cool breeze blowing your face, touch the face of your loved ones and see how perfect they are, send little notes to those you care, work on your pending assignments, cook a nice meal and taste each bite with gratitude! 

When we are mindful, we live in the present, we hear the sounds of our breathing, and we feel the sensations of our skin, we live each day as it comes. We really do not have time to feel sad and brood over things we cannot control!